sexual assault

Rape Culture #1: Introduction

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A new series by Joy Pedrow Skarka

[Trigger warning] Day three of my freshman year of college, I had said, “No,” countless times. I went to his apartment (totally sober), not realizing the possibilities of what could happen. As the night progressed, I started to understand his plan.

            “No, no, I don’t want to have sex.”

            “Are you sure?” he persisted. 

            “I haven’t had sex before. I should go.”

            “No, don’t go, stay with me. I promise we won’t have sex.” He put his hands around my hips and pulled me close to him.

It happened late at night, and I had just moved into my new dorm days earlier, so I had no idea how to get back home. “Okay, I’ll stay the night. But we should go to bed.” 

            We laid there on the tiny twin dorm bed. I drifted off to sleep.

            Groggy, I woke up to …

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Part 1: Rape Culture 101

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I met Toria, our guest blogger, via a podcast I recorded as a guest of Game On Girl. As part of that discussion we discussed “rape culture.” And that led to this series in which she helps us consider what rape culture is and what we can do about it. For a history of how we got here, check out this article. And now, Toria… 
“Rape culture.” These two words aren’t often thought of as going well together. Most people (sadly, not all) know that rape is a crime, and most associate culture with the arts, humanities, philosophy, and other intellectual and creative pursuits. Putting these two words together completely negates the positive connotation of culture. When you strip that away, what do you have? I will start to defining both “rape” and  “culture,” as “culture” has a huge number of definitions depending on whom you ask and
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