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It occurred to me this week that I’d left you, my loyal readers, in the dark on some of the stuff I’ve written and said of late. So in case any of this interests you, here goes—a few links here:

Every year I teach third graders at The Covenant School in Dallas “How to Read an Icon.” I did so again in February. So fun! If you see a guy holding keys, he’s probably Peter. If you see a tall skinny cross held by a solemn-looking person, he or she is probably a martyr. If he’s wearing green, good chance he’s John the Baptist.

A friend created a PDF from one of my blog posts as a visual for my content on seven views on women in ministry leadership within the inerrancy camp (five of them within the Complementarian camp), a topic I presented for Reformed Theological Seminary via Zoom. …

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An interview with a birth-mom who made an adoption plan: Christine Lindsay

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small-size-finding-sarah-finding-me-girl-1November is Adoption Awareness Month. So I’m featuring here an author who has a book that considers all sides of the adoption triad. 

SG: You are a reunited birth-mom—a woman who made an adoption plan for her baby who has met her biological child as an adult. Was the the day you met your birth-daughter a happy one?

Christine: Sadly, no. It was as painful as the day I said goodbye to Sarah as a three-day-old baby in 1979. In fact, more painful. At least on the former day, I was filled with faith that she and I would be reunited one day when she became an adult. For the next twenty years as she grew up as another couple’s child, I prayed for the time when I would see her again. But on that day, Sarah’s mom and dad were extremely upset by my desire to meet the now-adult …

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The Child Catchers: Rescue, Trafficking, and the New Gospel of Adoption: A response

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When I used to teach marriage conferences with my late coauthor, we drew on John Gottman’s research-based work that identifies the four most damaging patterns in marriage: withdrawal, escalation, invalidation, and negative interpretation. In the case of the latter, “no good deed goes unpunished.” If a husband brings home movie tickets for his wife, she assumes he bought them only because he wanted to see the film. If she buys him a pair of boots, he assumes she did so because she thinks his shoes are ugly.  In the
words of my father, “Damned if you do; damned if you don’t.”
Negative interpretation, like the other three communication
patterns, is lethal to a marriage. And what negative interpretation is to a
marriage, Kathryn Joyce’s book The Child
Catchers
is to evangelicals in the world of adoption.
That word “Gospel” in the title was clearly chosen for its
semantic domain.
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