Marriage

“The purpose for God in marriage is that two become one.” Here you will find resources designed to help married couples develop intimacy in every area of their lives.

Marriage Articles

Marital Intimacy SOAP Notes
It’s been a hard day—the last surgical case was especially long. And now you’re finally home. Clinging to a glass of lemonade, you collapse into your recliner, spiraling down into a persistent vegetative state in front of the TV, hypnotized by CNN.

Paralyzed Athlete: Building Solid Marriages
When Ron and Cindy married, Cindy was the picture of perfect health. A fine athlete, she enjoyed a weekly round of tennis and played on the church softball team. However, after she began to experience numbness in her legs, she sought a medical diagnosis. The report …

Seven Ways to Keep Your Marriage Strong While You’re in Seminary
I’ve spent fourteen years of my life either as the spouse of a DTS student or as a student myself. Yes, you’re right—I probably need to get a life. But I tell you that to tell you this: my husband and I still like each other … a lot. And you can emerge from seminary with a decent marriage, too.

Books

Sexual Intimacy in Marriage
Sexual Intimacy in Marriage cuts through the fog of misinformation and partial truths about sex to help heterosexual Christian couples find the fulfillment God intended for their sexual relationship.

Cross-Gender Relationships (Sexual Intimacy book excerpt)
Many warn that because of the danger of cross-gender friendships, men and women should never be friends. Movies such as “When Harry Met Sally” hint that male-female friendships will always develop into something more. Comedians joke that men have no female friends, only women they haven’t yet slept with. And they say women have no male friends–they merely have men they keep around “just in case.”

Control?: A Couple’s Guide to Contraception
Formerly The Contraception Guidebook: Options, Risks, and Answers for Christian Couples, this book is written in a personal, engaging style.

The Infertility Companion: Hope and Help for Couples Facing Infertility
The Infertility Companion draws on the Bible and medicine to shed light on questions right out of the headlines. Produced in partnership with the Christian Medical Association, the book includes discussion questions and a workbook suitable for individuals, couples, or small groups.

When Empty Arms Become a Heavy Burden: Encouragement for Couples Facing Infertility (2nd ed.)
When Empty Arms Become a Heavy Burden brings solid facts, detailed information, and a message of encouragement to infertile couples and those who work with them, along with answers to the questions they most often ask.

Posts on Marriage

On the ESV’s New Rendering of Genesis 3:16 (“Contrary Wives”)

By | Gender & Faith, Marriage, Women | No Comments

In light of the volumes written about recent changes in the ESV, I thought I’d offer a few reflections on the interpretation of this text (Gen. 3:16), especially because the verse is foundational to many people’s understanding of gender roles. First, the change:

Previous ESV translation of Genesis 3:16: Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.

New text of Genesis 3:16: Your desire shall be contrary to your husband, but he shall rule over you.

First, an underlying reason for some of the mistrust: The ESV committee had pretty conservative complementarians on it. I’ve identified about five different kinds of complementarians, and many on this committee are at the traditionalist end. And here’s the rub: They included no women translators. And no egalitarians. In a world growing more aware of the blindness inherent in homogenous groups, this seems odd—especially coming from people who …

Read More

Complementarians on Women in Ministry: Diverse Images

By | Gender & Faith, Marriage, Women | 2 Comments
Synogogue - blindfolded woman in 13th century ivory set, Descent from the Cross.

Synogogue – blindfolded woman in 13th century ivory set, Descent from the Cross.

My Engage post this week: 

I read recently that when boards of directors have both male and female representation, they make better decisions. Doesn’t that sound consistent with Genesis 1:28? Not to everybody. Especially not those at the conservative end of the complementarian camp (and it is a very wide camp with a lot of difference inside).

The word “complementarian” gets underlined in red in a Word doc, because it’s a word people made up. And they did so to emphasize that men and women are complementary.

Some say “egalitarians [hereafter E’s] believe men and women have no gender differences and that complementarians [hereafter C’s] believe in the beautiful design of God for gender differences.” But honestly? That’s baloney. In terms of their view of the existence of gender differences, both camps believe men and women

Read More

My Favorite Parenting Advice

By | Life In The Body, Marriage, Women | No Comments

My husband and I cut our chops in vocational ministry by serving teens and college students. So long before we brought home a baby of our own, we saw the kind of parent/child conflicts that can tear apart the strongest of families. Because we paid our way through grad school in part by “housesitting” in some homes that came with kids while parents traveled, we had a solid dose of parenting experience before we ever got started. There was the toddler who cried the entire weekend because he had separation anxiety. There was the daughter who took off to go camping with the boys’ baseball team. And I can’t forget the drug-using son who jumped out his second-story window, broke into his brother’s car, stole it, and took it four-wheeling in the river. The next morning, he swaggered up the front sidewalk as if nothing had happened.

Other people’s kids …

Read More
%d bloggers like this: