A Journey Through Miscarriage
Six hundred thousand U.S. women experience miscarriage each year. One in every 50 couples trying to have children experience multiple miscarriages. As many as 120,000 couples each year suffer at least their third consecutive miscarriage.
A Heart’s Desire
Why Does It Hurt So Much?
A couple sat to eat lunch with me after I had spoken at an infertility symposium. As we began to talk, I asked the wife, “When you grieve over your infertility, what is your greatest loss?” She didn’t have to think about her answer. “It’s the loss of a dream; my heart’s desire is to have my husband’s child and raise it together.” I turned to the husband and addressed him. “And you?”
Dealing with Aunt Bertha and Other Well-Intentioned Dragons
Whenever I sit in a room full of quiet fertility patients, I’ve found a quick way to get the conversation started. I simply ask, “Has anyone ever been insensitive about your infertility?” At first they give me the “duh” look, indicating that the stupidity of my question is on par with, “Has Oprah ever been on a diet?” But after that momentary pause, they stumble over each other with anecdotes.
Secondary Infertility: The Baby Blues
When Charla and Bob Boyl tried to have a second child, they were shocked to discover they had a fertility problem. The Boyls have plenty of company; at least one in twelve couples of childbearing age experience secondary infertility. They have one child, maybe more, then find that after a year or more of trying, they have been unable to conceive or carry another pregnancy to term.
Psychologist David Henderson interviewed me about infertility and pregnancy loss and their effect on women, especially as they affect marriage and faith.
Transcript of 2009 Moody Radio Broadcast
For the couple that’s going through infertility, I would say it’s often the very first thing a couple goes through in their young time together, the first major grief they experience together and they’re floored to find out how differently they deal with it. And just to know that this doesn’t mean you have a lousy marriage, it can actually mean you have a strong marriage, you just need to recognize we‟re not the same.